Don’t EVER forget your wedding anniversary!
There was an email that stood out above all other emails from lat night. It simply read: “It was our wedding anniversary yesterday.” I stood there in disbelief having missed one of the most crucial days of our entire joint life. If you feel gutted, then this is the moment. I ran downstairs to apologise, in my tattered dressing gown which didn’t make it for yesterdays wash. Reinout was outside and I lept out on my bare feet to stand on street waiving to the unknowing subject. People were watching. I ignored. I stood there for some time whilst my husband was playing with Sebastian and his three-wheeler. After what must have seemed like minutes he noticed me and came over.
“I’m sorry” I meekly apologized.
“I wanted to see when you would remember. But obviously you didn’t”.
I apologized once more knowing that time was not on my side and I needed to make a move to get ready for the day. But as I applied my make-up and curled those strands of fake Chinese hair that adorns my head, I had an epiphany. One of those, “hold on” moments.
The notion of my husband waiting a whole day, watching my every move, every word uttered across my Dior lipstick stained lips in anticipation of a revelation….and still not saying anything. Not whisking me away for a dinner at the local Indonesian, or a home cooked meal, even if I would have to pick out every single macaroni to adhere to my Atkins diet. The thought baffled me. I would have reminded my husband, even if it was my birthday and he’d forgotten. I would have reminded him.
And people make mistakes. People get consumed in every little detail called life, random moments forever changing course and direction. Defence or not, legitimate reason or excuse, people make mistakes. Now let’s move on to bigger and brighter things. Such as a holiday looming on the horizon!
Susanne
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And PS: Any anger soon evaporated during a phone call between the bus stop and work…
Don’t feel too bad. As a best man said recently to my now brother in law – the best way to remember your anniversary forever, is to forget it just once.
Forgotten once, you’ll be much more motivated to make the most out of every anniversary to come. And the other 364 days too.
reply to this commentYour Message@Tom:
reply to this commentThank you Tom! Well said, and I surely won’t forget the next time…I pray to God not
Hehe, I hope when I get married, my wife will forget our anniversary once in a while, too…. Then I won’t feel so bad about doing it myself!
Besides that, why should the anniversary be so special? Any day one is in love is a great day to express it, no “holiday” or anniversary necessary!
reply to this commentYour Message@Brian:
reply to this commentYes, and it’s those unforseen, unexpected moments that means the most!